Why Mommy Must Be Happy

Hello everyone! A few weeks ago I had the opportunity to read The Art of Having It All: A Woman’s Guide to Unlimited Abundance by Christy Whitman, the acclaimed New York Times best-selling author. This book resonated with me beyond WOW! THIS IS A MUST READ BOOK for ALL WOMEN across all age groups.

Today, I’m so excited to have Christy sharing why Momma Must Be Happy. Take it away, Christy…

I’m sure you’ve heard the old saying – which supposedly originated in the Deep South – that states: “When Momma ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy.” While this may sound like an old wives tale, it actually speaks to a very powerful universal truth: The energy we bring to any situation or relationship has a far greater influence on the people we interact with than the words we speak or the actions we take. If our energy is frenetic, we elicit tension, anxiety and resistance from those around us, and greatly reduce our chances of creating the outcomes we desire. And when on the other hand our primary vibration is one of calm and joyful anticipation, we put others at ease and naturally inspire their cooperation. Yes, we get the job done, but in such a way that everyone involved is left feeling full, inspired, and…happy!

What many women don’t yet realize is that generating this kind of happiness – in others and in ourselves – is entirely an inside job. It has nothing to do with getting our kids to clean their rooms, our partners to treat us a certain way, or our in-laws to behave the way we want them to. What determines our happiness is the degree to which we are connected with ourselves. Why? Because it’s only when we are connected with ourselves that we can feel (and adjust) the quality of the energy we are sending out.

Thanks to both quantum physics and modern science, it’s now a well-accepted fact that energy – not matter – is the primary substance that comprises everything that exists in the universe. Even things that our senses tell us are solid– rocks, mountains, trees, and flesh-and-bone human beings – are made up entirely of energy.

The quality of the energy that we send out sets the tone of the energy that flows throughout our households. When there is harmony within us, that energy radiates out in waves, flooding our home and everyone in it with laughter and love and brings a vibration of ease to everything we do and everyone we interact with – most especially our children. The same thing happens when we’re disconnected, of course, only in reverse. Our lack of harmony spills over into our household and manifests as a vibration of frustration, impatience and chaos. This energy may not be visible, but it’s palpable.

As women – and especially as mothers – it’s so incredibly easy to lose ourselves in the roles we play and forget that putting our own happiness first is prerequisite to creating a happy marriage, raising happy children, and creating a happy home. This is probably because most of us were raised to believe that practicing self-care is tantamount to being selfish, and that taking care of others is a far more noble pursuit. But I want to suggest that this notion is as fundamentally flawed as it is outdated, and that learning how to find happiness within ourselves is one of the most loving things we can do for our kids. By making our own happiness a priority, we are teaching our children – not with words, but with our energy – what it means to be a successful, fulfilled, well-rounded human being.

The bottom line is this: to raise joyful kids, we must be joyful adults. This is a choice that begins within us as individuals, extends to our relationships with our partners, and spills over into our relationship with our kids. When Momma is happy, the rest of the world reflects that happiness! Emotions are contagious.

Christy Whitman is a New York Times bestselling author, transformational leader, and author of the forthcoming book The Art of Having It All. She has appeared on The Today Show and The Morning Show, and her work has been featured in People Magazine, Seventeen, Woman’s Day, Hollywood Life, and Teen Vogue, among others. As the CEO and founder of the Quantum Success Coaching Academy, a 12-month Law of Attraction coaching certification program. Christy has helped thousands of people worldwide to achieve their goals through her empowerment seminars, speeches, and coaching sessions and products. Christy’s life-changing message reaches over 125,000 people a month, and her work has been promoted by and featured with esteemed authors and luminaries such as Marianne Williamson, Dr. Wayne Dyer, Marci Shimoff, Brian Tracy, Neale Donald Walsch, Abraham-Hicks, and Louise Hay. She currently lives in Montreal with her husband, Frederic, and their two boys, Alexander and Maxim.